Parenting

The Faithful Fork

The Faithful Fork

With shoulders slumped and a downcast look, my daughter Alex plopped down on the couch, crushed that she wasn’t cast the lead role as Belle in Beauty and the Beast. She was thirteen and her life was over (always a flare for the dramatic). “Alex, Honey, it’s not the end of the world. There will be other plays,” I encouraged. “Right, but I’m a fork in the Be My Guest ensemble. I mean, couldn’t I at least have gotten Babette the feather duster or Chip the teacup? I’m nothing more than flatware, Mom!” she complained. Wanting to encourage her with

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Battling Bedheads

Battling Bedheads

Has getting your kids out of bed in the mornings been an ongoing battle? It used to be for me. As a home schooling mom, it was one of my biggest challenges. The funny thing is I spent the first five years of their lives trying to keep them in bed. Once they became school-age, I couldn’t get them out. One of the cons for home schooling is the issue of no accountability to be “at school” on time. Mom isn’t quite as intimidating as a principal. There is no teacher to interrupt by walking into class twenty minutes late

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The Dangers of Scolding

The Dangers of Scolding

It was a cold day in February when my children asked if they could go outside to play. I gave them permission to go out but only after they had put on their coats and shoes. My daughter Alex loved to play outside barefoot, so as she whizzed by, I confirmed my orders by repeating, “Don’t forget to put on your shoes.” Twenty minutes later, I took the trash outside and found Alex running around on bare feet that had turned a bluish purple color. As if that wasn’t enough to light my fire, her new pants were a little

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What to Do When Children Interrupt

When children constantly interrupt adult conversations, it can be frustrating. However, if we respond with anger, we sin against God and our children. Our motive should not be retaliation because we are irritated or inconvenienced. Our motive should be to drive out the rudeness and inconsiderate disrespect from the hearts of our children. If the motive is sinful we might say, “I can’t believe you are so inconsiderate. I am trying to talk to her and you are acting so ugly!” But if the motive is righteous rather than selfish we might say, “Honey, do you think it is kind

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Taming the Tattletale

“Christopher’s not letting me play with the ball!” “Sarah’s calling me names!” “Tommy won’t let me in the bathroom!” Sound familiar? Tattling reigns as one of the most common behavior problems among siblings. Unfortunately, it is overlooked rather than dealt with properly in many homes. Parents often pardon rather than correct the tattler simply because they do not know how to deal with the issue. While some parents are frustrated with their inability to control the problem, others try to rationalize their decision to avoid correction. “After all,” reasons one parent, “if my child is doing something that he ought

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